Episode 75: Improve Your Sex Life: A Conversation with Dr. Lori Lawrenz

High Wire Woman with Rosanna Berardi

This week on the High Wire Woman podcast, Rosanna Berardi is talking about improving your sex life. Her guest, Dr. Lori Lawrenz, is a sex therapist who counsels women and helps them address issues of trauma, grief, shame, and mental health in regard to their sexuality. In this week’s episode, Dr. Lawrenz shares insights on improving your sexual health, increasing connections with your partner, and owning your sexuality.

You'll hear Rosanna and Lori talk about:

1. Sex therapy is a way of engaging people in regard to their sexual health and is different from traditional talk therapy.
2. Desire discrepancy is a frequent issue that comes up among couples. It is when you have desires different from your partner. Many partners feel shame because of this discrepancy. It's also easier for a person to simply cut off sexual interaction with their partner because of this shame.
3. Sensate focus is a recommended method for couples to engage in mutual non-sexual touch; it builds intimacy between both partners.
4. Emotionally focused therapy helps couples get down to the why of their reduced sexual desire. "A lot of times it's not about the what of the sexual relationship, it's about the why," Lori says. Talking out your feelings and doing deep introspection with your partner and the therapist can go a long way.
5. Sex, whether it's with a partner or it's solo, should be something to look forward to and something that's enjoyable.
6. Sex therapy is important for many people, and they welcome the opportunity to talk about and get in touch with their sexuality. It also gives them the opportunity to talk about any past sexual traumas.
7. It's never too late to seek therapy, and it's never too late to heal from whatever has hurt you in the sexual sphere.
8. The more you can learn about yourself and your own sexuality, the more you can show up for somebody else.

Your sexual health is just as important as your physical health. It's something precious, and something to be nurtured. Take care of it.

Resources

Rosanna Berardi | LinkedIn

Rosanna Berardi | Berardi Immigration Law

High Wire Woman

Dr. Lori Lawrenz

Hawaii Center for Sexual and Relationship Health