How Do I Welcome the New Year When My Heart Is So Heavy? with Rabbi Ashira Boxman and Rabbi Laila Haas

Essential Questions with Rabbi Dan Levin

In this episode of Essential Questions, Rabbi Dan Levin sits down with Rabbis Ashira Boxman and Laila Haas for a conversation about preparing for the High Holy Days when their hearts feel heavy. Together, they reflect on how they enter the new year with intention, exploring who they are now compared to who they were last year, and how spiritual practices help guide them through that journey.

They share the impact of Temple Beth El’s meaningful Elul rituals that include inviting people into the sanctuary and writing their burdens on rocks to let them go, the importance of quiet reflection, and the shift from being head-focused to heart-focused. The conversation also touches on how ritual creates a structure to hold intention, including a powerful practice of releasing burdens through the symbolic use of stones. Rabbi Dan also opens up about an unexpected part of his High Holy Day preparation — watching Saving Private Ryan, a film that’s come to hold deep meaning for him during this season.

If you’re facing the new year with a heavy heart, this episode offers honesty, insight, and the comfort of shared experience.