Qadr vs. Cupid: Who's Really in Charge?

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Sidhu Moose Wala explodes onto the Canadian music scene. His sound is a fusion of two worlds - hip-hop with the poetic language of rural Punjab, where he is from. After years of struggle he’s making it. But with the spotlight comes a dark side. As his fame grows, so do the threats. "We will kill you." Presented by broadcaster and DJ Bobby Friction and investigative journalist Ishleen Kaur. Season 8 of World of Secrets, The Killing Call, is a BBC Eye investigation for the BBC World Service. Archive audio credits: Lovepreet Waraich, Malwa TV, BritAsia TV, MPHONE Canteeni Mandeer, GK Digital, Thakur Media, Capital Extra, Famous Punjab TV, ModernSings, Dheeth.jeha, RealRohitBlogs, Mirror Now, India Today. Here’s a link to the BBC Eye two-part documentary films, which we recommend you watch after listening to this podcast: https://bit.ly/thekillingcall If you are in the UK, you can watch on iPlayer: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m002f18y…

약 1년 전 17:04

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In this episode, we dive into the concept of soulmates; are they just a rom-com myth, or is there something deeper? We explore the idea from an Islamic perspective, discuss the role of qadr (divine decree), and unpack why "waiting for Mr./Mrs. Perfect" might be holding you back. Spoiler alert: marriage isn't the end of the story. Join us for a fun, insightful chat that might just change the way you see "happily ever after."

Brought to you by your favorite matchmakers; Hiba and Zaid with opinions on everything, including Robert Downey Jr.’s early movies.

Got a dilemma or story? The Single Muslim Hotline is here for you! We’ll play your anonymous messages in future episodes and offer real talk. Drop us a voice note 👇🏻
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1. Concept of Soulmates in Marriage (00:00:00)

2. Purpose and Compatibility in Marriage (00:10:39)

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#Islamic #Society #Relationship #Religion #Conversations #Halal Match #Muslim Matrimonial #Matchmaker #Muslim #Muslim Marriage #Muslim Love #Muslims In The West #Single Muslim #Halal

Qadr vs. Cupid: Who's Really in Charge?

Diary of a Matchmaker

published 약 1년 전

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Brought to you by your favorite matchmakers; Hiba and Zaid with opinions on everything, including Robert Downey Jr.’s early movies.

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1. Concept of Soulmates in Marriage (00:00:00)

2. Purpose and Compatibility in Marriage (00:10:39)

62 에피소드

#Islamic #Society #Relationship #Religion #Conversations #Halal Match #Muslim Matrimonial #Matchmaker #Muslim #Muslim Marriage #Muslim Love #Muslims In The West #Single Muslim #Halal

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Considering Marrying a Convert? Listen First w/ Aiah Neamatallah 30:17

6일 전30:17

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This week, psychotherapist Aiah Neamatallah joins us to talk about what many converts face after the shahada, especially when it comes to marriage, from feeling caught between two worlds to navigating power dynamics in relationships. We dig into what converts should know before getting married, what born Muslims and their parents often overlook, and how communities can do better. Whether you're a convert, marrying one, or just curious, this episode is packed with honesty, empathy, and practical takeaways. Got a dilemma or story? The Single Muslim Hotline is here for you! We’ll play your anonymous messages in future episodes and offer real talk. Drop us a voice note 👇🏻 https://www.speakpipe.com/DiaryOfAMatchmaker…

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Financial Habits Every Single Should Know w/ Jesse Reitberger 55:28

13일 전55:28

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Money talks before marriage don’t have to be cringey, they’re actually a must. We brought in Jesse Reitberger, an Islamic finance expert and founder of Canadian Islamic Wealth, to break down why it’s not about the salary number, but how that money’s made. Spoiler: halal income beats a fat paycheck every time. Jesse drops gems like the $10K question, halal mortgage hacks, and why men need to own their provider role while recognizing the reality of dual incomes today. Plus, his top tip? Start saving now, even $25 a month can seriously change the game. Whether you’re single, engaged, or just curious, this episode is packed with straight talk and smart advice. Get in touch with Jesse at: https://manzil.ca/wealth jesse@manzilwealth.ca Got a dilemma or story? The Single Muslim Hotline is here for you! We’ll play your anonymous messages in future episodes and offer real talk. Drop us a voice note 👇🏻 https://www.speakpipe.com/DiaryOfAMatchmaker…

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The Productivity Shift Every Single Needs w/ Mohammed Faris 53:17

20일 전53:17

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🚨 Heads up: If you only listen to one episode of this podcast, make it this one. We’re obsessed. What if preparing for marriage wasn’t about ticking more boxes, but about aligning your effort with purpose, intention, and barakah? We sat down with Muhammed Faris, founder of Productive Muslim, and the conversation honestly blew us away. He unpacks what productivity actually means for single Muslims, and it’s not what you think. We talk about shifting from hustle to heart. From scarcity to trust. From doing more to doing it better, with Allah in mind. Faris shares practical tools and deep mindset shifts that can completely change how you approach your search for a spouse. It’s grounding, insightful, and exactly what we needed to hear, and we have a feeling you might feel the same. Follow The Productive Muslim on Instagram . Got a dilemma or story? The Single Muslim Hotline is here for you! We’ll play your anonymous messages in future episodes and offer real talk. Drop us a voice note 👇🏻 https://www.speakpipe.com/DiaryOfAMatchmaker…

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Forget Small Talk: Try This Instead! 35:24

24일 전35:24

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Let’s be honest, courting can feel like a weird mix of awkward silences and overly intense “So, where do you see yourself in five years?” vibes. Today, we're sharing a better way: playful, thought-provoking activities designed to spark real connection without killing the vibe. These aren’t your typical icebreakers. One minute you’re ranking your top values, the next you’re arguing (respectfully!) over whether a $3,000 mattress is worth the splurge. And in the process, you’re learning how someone thinks, what they prioritize, and how they deal with pressure or disagreement. The best part? You might learn a few things about yourself too. Because compatibility isn’t just about knowing the other person, it’s also about understanding what matters to you. So if you’re navigating the courting world and want less awkwardness, more depth, and maybe a few laughs along the way, this episode’s for you. Curious to try these games yourself? The Compatibility Challenge lives here: Amazon or halalmatch.ca . Got a dilemma or story? The Single Muslim Hotline is here for you! We’ll play your anonymous messages in future episodes and offer real talk. Drop us a voice note 👇🏻 https://www.speakpipe.com/DiaryOfAMatchmaker…

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Ghosting: The Breakup You Never Saw Coming 27:25

5 weeks 전27:25

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Ghosting sucks, especially when you’re serious about marriage. You start overthinking: Did I say something wrong? Is it my looks? But usually, it’s not about you. In this episode we get real about ghosting, from both sides. Zaid admits he once micro-ghosted because he couldn’t be honest, while Hiba shares the pain of being left hanging. We break down why ghosting happens so much in Muslim courting, why silence feels “easier,” and what Islam says about honest communication. Been ghosted or done the ghosting? This episode’s for you. Share your story on the Single Muslim Hotline! Got a dilemma or story? The Single Muslim Hotline is here for you! We’ll play your anonymous messages in future episodes and offer real talk. Drop us a voice note 👇🏻 https://www.speakpipe.com/DiaryOfAMatchmaker…

Diary of a Matchmaker

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Istikhara Myths That Need To Go 32:14

6 weeks 전32:14

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You made istikhara... now you're just confused, dreamless, and wondering what’s next. Sound familiar? If you're in the marriage search scene, you've probably bumped into the mysterious world of istikhara, or worse, been "istikhara’d" (aka ghosted with a religious excuse). Today we’re breaking down what istikhara is really about: seeking goodness from Allah, not outsourcing your decisions. We’re busting myths and sharing real stories from our matchmaking experiences where istikhara was misused as an emotional escape hatch. Whether you're about to say yes to a proposal or just curious, this episode will help you make decisions with your heart, mind, and faith aligned. Plus we have a funny blooper for you to enjoy! Got an istikhara ghosting story? Drop us a voice message! Got a dilemma or story? The Single Muslim Hotline is here for you! We’ll play your anonymous messages in future episodes and offer real talk. Drop us a voice note 👇🏻 https://www.speakpipe.com/DiaryOfAMatchmaker…

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Can a Father’s Wilayah Be Taken Away? 28:14

7 weeks 전28:14

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What do you do when your dad turns into a one-man dating app filter… and swipes left on everyone ? In this episode we’re talking about something major: when your father’s wilayah (guardianship) can actually be removed. Yep, it’s a thing, and it’s not taken lightly. We’re diving into real stories, like the woman who aged out of her prime while her parents waited for Mr. Perfect Ethnic Match, and another whose mom basically ran the rejection department. We break down what wilayah is really supposed to be, how it's misused, and what to do if you're stuck in a no-win situation. Hit download if you’ve ever wondered: Is this protection… or control? And send this to a friend who's been “almost married” 17 times. Got a dilemma or story? The Single Muslim Hotline is here for you! We’ll play your anonymous messages in future episodes and offer real talk. Drop us a voice note 👇🏻 https://www.speakpipe.com/DiaryOfAMatchmaker…

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Misyar Marriage: A Loophole or a Lifeline? 32:59

8 weeks 전32:59

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Misyar marriage—halal but hotly debated. In this episode, we break down what it actually is, why some people turn to it, and why scholars aren’t exactly cheering it on. Think: waived rights, complicated intentions, and a whole lot of ethical gray area. We cover everything from divorced moms looking for companionship to men using it as a loophole—and why that’s a problem. With shifting gender roles and evolving needs, Misyar is becoming more common, but is it the right move? We get into the real talk: when it works, when it hurts, and what to know before diving in. Got a dilemma or story? The Single Muslim Hotline is here for you! We’ll play your anonymous messages in future episodes and offer real talk. Drop us a voice note 👇🏻 https://www.speakpipe.com/DiaryOfAMatchmaker…

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Married My Professor: A Love Story From Jordan 35:39

9 weeks 전35:39

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What happens when a student catches feelings... for her professor? And what if he feels the same but can't say a word until the semester ends? This isn't your average love story. It’s a journey shaped by quiet moments, bold choices, and some family drama that challenged what they thought love would look like. Now 25 years in, they're sharing how it all started and what kept them going. This episode is for every Muslim single who still believes in love. Don’t miss it. Got a dilemma or story? The Single Muslim Hotline is here for you! We’ll play your anonymous messages in future episodes and offer real talk. Drop us a voice note 👇🏻 https://www.speakpipe.com/DiaryOfAMatchmaker…

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Polygamy: Is It Worth The Drama? 26:47

10 weeks 전26:47

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"I wish she gave me more attention.. Why do I have to beg for intimacy?.. Maybe I should consider a second wife!" Today we're unpacking a trend we’re seeing more often: men considering polygamy, and women actually open to it. While polygamy is part of our faith, it’s not a free pass for avoiding deeper issues in a marriage. We also talk about the practical side: the legal messiness of polygamy in the West (it’s actually criminal in Canada), the emotional toll on everyone involved, and why it’s not always the solution people think it is. This episode isn’t here to judge, but to offer a real talk on what’s halal, what’s practical, and what might need more therapy than a second nikah. Give it a listen. You might come out with more questions than answers (and that’s kind of the point). Got a dilemma or story? The Single Muslim Hotline is here for you! We’ll play your anonymous messages in future episodes and offer real talk. Drop us a voice note 👇🏻 https://www.speakpipe.com/DiaryOfAMatchmaker…

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How to Attract the Right Partner? w/ Lama Aboubakr 43:43

11 weeks 전43:43

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In this episode, we’re diving into the world of halal courting with the incredible Lama Aboubakr, a relationship coach who specializes in helping Muslims attract the right person they truly deserve. Let’s face it—sometimes, past experiences and old patterns can hold us back from finding the fulfilling relationship we long for. But Lama’s here to show us how to break free from those cycles and shift our mindset. Lama shares powerful insights on building self-awareness, understanding attachment styles, and improving communication—all crucial steps in attracting the right partner. Her approach helps you work on yourself, so you can become the kind of person who not only deserves a great relationship but is ready to build one too. Tune in to discover how to approach the search for a spouse with confidence, patience, and clarity, knowing that when you do the inner work, the right person will come your way. Check out Lama's website here and follow her on Instagram here . Got a dilemma or story? The Single Muslim Hotline is here for you! We’ll play your anonymous messages in future episodes and offer real talk. Drop us a voice note 👇🏻 https://www.speakpipe.com/DiaryOfAMatchmaker…

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Hulu's "Muslim Matchmaker": How Islamic Is It? 45:50

16 weeks 전45:50

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"Muslim Matchmaker" is making waves, and we’re diving deep into it. In this episode, we break down whether the show hits or misses when it comes to Islamic courtship. Does it reflect our values, or are there some glaring mismatches? We chat about the show's ideas and how it stacks up against other matchmaking shows. Does the flashy aesthetic add anything meaningful, or is it just for the 'gram? Our conversation goes beyond just the drama. It’s about the principles that should drive real connections, grounded in faith. We want to spark some reflection and critical thinking on how these portrayals shape the way we view relationships and the Muslim community. Trust us, you won’t want to miss this one! We'd love to hear your opinion on the show, even if you disagree. Feel free to leave a comment or send an email. Got a dilemma or story? The Single Muslim Hotline is here for you! We’ll play your anonymous messages in future episodes and offer real talk. Drop us a voice note 👇🏻 https://www.speakpipe.com/DiaryOfAMatchmaker…

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Marriage After Divorce: How To Avoid Past Mistakes w/ Sarah Sultan 54:53

17 weeks 전54:53

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Starting over after a breakup or divorce? We know it’s not easy, but you’re not alone. In this episode, we sit down with therapist Sarah Sultan to talk about what it really takes to heal, grow, and move forward with confidence. We discuss how to recognize red flags you might have missed the first time around and how to rebuild your self-worth so you’re not carrying past baggage into something new. We also cover the importance of finding clarity on what you need in a spouse, and why you should focus on becoming whole before looking for someone to complete you. If you’re ready to stop feeling stuck and start seeing this as a fresh beginning, this episode is for you. Follow Sarah on Instagram , or email her directly at: therapy@sarahsultan.com Got a dilemma or story? The Single Muslim Hotline is here for you! We’ll play your anonymous messages in future episodes and offer real talk. Drop us a voice note 👇🏻 https://www.speakpipe.com/DiaryOfAMatchmaker…

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Muslim Dating Apps: What No One Tells You 19:51

18 weeks 전19:51

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If you’ve ever downloaded a Muslim 'dating' app full of hope, only to find yourself drowning in awkward chats, ghosting, and people who don’t seem to know why they’re there… we get it. It’s exhausting. In this episode, we’re talking about the real struggles of apps; the disappointments, the confusion, and the moments that make you want to delete them forever. We’re also sharing tips on how to navigate them in a way that actually moves you forward. Because if you’re going to put yourself out there, you deserve to do it in a way that protects your mind, your heart, and your intentions. Tune in and bismillah. Got a dilemma or story? The Single Muslim Hotline is here for you! We’ll play your anonymous messages in future episodes and offer real talk. Drop us a voice note 👇🏻 https://www.speakpipe.com/DiaryOfAMatchmaker…

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Is Social Media Ruining Our Marriage Expectations? 27:03

19 weeks 전27:03

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Today we're spilling the tea on how social media is turning our brains into mush when it comes to marriage expectations. From scrolling through picture-perfect weddings to comparing our own love lives to influencer highlight reels. We’ve all been there, feeling FOMO because your friend’s husband just bought her a Ferrari, while you’re getting excited about a new couch. Whether you’re married or still in the "single and scrolling" phase, we get into how social media makes us rush into things or feel like our lives just aren’t up to par. So, if you’ve ever wondered why your marriage doesn’t look like an Instagram post or felt like you’re missing out on a hashtag-worthy moment, tune in! It’s time to laugh, reflect, and hopefully put the phone down for a second. Roadmap To Marriage Workshop - Free Sign Up Here Got a dilemma or story? The Single Muslim Hotline is here for you! We’ll play your anonymous messages in future episodes and offer real talk. Drop us a voice note 👇🏻 https://www.speakpipe.com/DiaryOfAMatchmaker…