How seeking validation from your parents can manifest as never starting your business or remaining stuck

Burning Pure Podcast

" I got quiet and he said elyse why are you still seeking validation from your father? My heart sank..."

Something i want to share is that everyone family is different but It is the fact that we care about what they think and that Im someone who has always wanted to make my parents proud. So I deal with recovering people pleasing. If this is something that is hard for you, I hope this episode makes you feel less crazy.

In this episode I talk about my own experience with dealing with validation. Some pure no bull shit honesty about how when you are taught to seek validation outside of who you are, its something that comes up again. I talk about how the awareness of the signs and how it is happening and what it looks like when its happening can cause massive analysis paralysis. It took me years to start my brand after the first time I thought about it. I came up with every reason that my parents wouldn't like what I was doing, that I would never make it to be a billion dollar brand so why start. I was so focused on how everyone else would feel about it, I almost didn't do it at all. Or I would get one step ahead and 2 steps back.

In this episode we touch on:

1. Awareness
2. Learned behavior
3. You don't see if because your used to it
4. Needing someone to show you what you can not see

• I didn’t even think that’s what I was doing

• Still putting him first

• Thinking hell listen to the same conversation and hear it in a different way

• THEY ARENT GOING TO CHANGE WHICH MEANS YOU HAVE TO

• SAYING NO

Takeaway + Action: when we look outside of ourselves for validation then it only creates a loop for ourselves to never be happy. Take action and find small habits to validate yourself.

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