How To Avoid Dating App Traps & Really Bad Sex | Milfshake Ep 16 featuring Tahiry Jose

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On Episode 16 of Milfshake, Queenella and Cori sit down with special guests Mercedes and reality TV star Tahiry Jose for a raw, funny, and deeply honest conversation about modern love, dating, and self-discovery. From Tahiry’s take on being an “alpha woman” who still loves when a man takes the lead, to the ladies’ stories about dating in 2025, emotional versus physical connections, and the challenges of being perceived as “too beautiful,” no topic is off limits. The group debates flying men out, navigating expired friendships, and the importance of truly being seen by a partner, while Tahiry also opens up about freezing her eggs and her hopes for motherhood. This episode is packed with laughter, vulnerability, and unapologetic real talk you won’t want to miss.

About Today’s Guests

Tahiry Jose is a reality television personality and entrepreneur best known for her role on VH1’s hit series Love & Hip Hop: New York. Born and raised in Harlem, New York, she built a career in modeling and entertainment. Known for her outspoken personality and strong presence, Tahiry has remained a prominent figure in urban pop culture, leveraging her platform to pursue acting, hosting, and entrepreneurial opportunities.

Mercedes Lennon is a professional makeup artist, educator, mother, and brain tumor warrior. Her artistry has been featured on national networks including BET, VH1, FOX, Lifetime, ESPN, and The Food Network, and she has collaborated with some of the industry’s top brands. Her journey as both a mother and survivor fuels her resilience and passion, inspiring others while she continues to empower clients and students through her artistry and teaching.

Key Points from this Episode

• 0:00 [Welcome to Milfshake] Meet Today’s Hosts, Queenella, Cori, with guests Mercedes and Tahiry!

• 0:10 [Alpha Woman Love] Even as an “alpha woman,” Tahiry loves when a man takes the lead, but Queenella questions if being a giver attracts takers.

• 4:24 [Not Every Alpha] Mercedes and Queen connect over long-term relationships, noting that not every man is naturally an alpha or ready to lead.

• 8:38 [Dating in 2025] The ladies move into post-relationship dating, trial and error with social media behaviors, casual vs. serious connections, and Tahiry’s story of traveling abroad to meet a man who didn’t make a move.

• 17:05 [Emotional vs. Physical] The group questions why deep emotional bonds often lack physical delivery, or vice versa, and how intentionality matters in choosing who to engage with on social media and in real life.

• 30:47 [The Curse of Beauty] Cori unpacks the challenges of being perceived as beautiful, from intimidating men to intelligence working against women, while Queenella shares how to approach men intentionally.

• 35:11 [Fly Him Out] The women debate spending money on men, girls’ trips, and the idea that true connection matters more than location or cost.

• 41:47 [Feeling Seen] The group reflects on wanting to be truly seen by a partner, and how waiting until maturity allows for deeper, lasting commitment.

• 44:45 [Tahiry on Motherhood] Tahiry opens up about freezing her eggs, her desire for two kids, and the balance between not settling while still wanting to be a mother later in life.

Mentioned on the Show

• Connect with Tahiry Jose on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealtahiry/

• Connect with Mercedes Lennon on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mercedes.lennon/

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