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Join Lou Paoletti and Michael Malone as they embark on a humorous journey of self-discovery while unpacking their weekly therapy sessions. From navigating grief and anxiety to embracing ADHD quirks, Secondhand Therapy is a funny, heartfelt podcast that brings laughter and meaning to life’s toughest challenges. Support us on Patreon! Merch available at secondhandhtherapypod.com
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Love, Vulnerability and Boundaries... Lou confronts the complexities of relationships as he addresses his partner's perceived lack of effort in their home life. Lou explores the struggle of balancing healthy boundaries with genuine care. Lou and his partner reflect on their progress in conflict resolution before Lou reflects on his fear of embracin…
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We couldn’t avoid it any longer. We’re talking about grief this week. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandthera…
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This is a deeper, heavier episode. Lou opens with a quick pickleball story. Feeling a bit down lately, Michael explores the reasons behind his funk, with Lou suggesting it might be for obvious reasons. The conversation delves into Michael's childhood experiences and his relationship with his parents, offering insights into how our past shapes our p…
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Lou shares his dream with a surprising message for Michael, sparking a discussion about self-reflection and personal growth before cussing out his Grandma. Lou reveals his new habit of mouth-taping during sleep. Lou may have a hygiene problem. Meanwhile, Michael candidly reflects on his professional journey, expressing feelings of backstepping and …
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Stay tuned after the episode for a little surprise! A sample of our weekly "After the Pod" only on Patreon! Lou shares his candid thoughts on why he struggles with therapy, particularly due to the scheduling during the day (not really). He reveals exciting news about finally getting scheduled for his autism and ADHD testing, highlighting the import…
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In this insightful episode, Michael opens up about the side effects he's experienced from his ADHD medication. Join him and Lou as they explore their differing views on strangers discussing medication and the impact of mental health on daily life. Lou shares a humorous story about sliding into a celebrity's DMs—only to face rejection. The conversat…
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Michael has noticed that he used to be hot but now he's just cute. Lou doesnt care. Michael talks about the Ask Matrix and how his time with his new therapist is starting out. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondha…
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Michael clears up a few things (a lot of things) from Episode 051 with regards to public perception, Snapchat and other things. Lou made a joke in therapy that didn’t land. Lou painted his toenails. Lou feels weak and embarrassed for missing his partner and had an uncomfortable conversation with her about it. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/sec…
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We talk about a break-up… Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448…
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Michael explores the impact of ADHD on his life, highlighting how it enforces a strict schedule due to executive dysfunction. He shares his struggles with all-or-nothing thinking and his pursuit of the ideal. Meanwhile, Lou, who is not usually fond of activities, reflects on his recent EMDR therapy sessions related to his past relationship and form…
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Lou got a vasectomy and afterward played a joke on his girlfriend. Michael’s words are not matching his actions in areas of his life… specifically with women. Michael’s continued struggle with boundaries might have made him a f*ck boy. How old is too old to have Snapchat? Okay but is Michael a f*ck boy or no? Michael is still addicted to validation…
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Michael and Lou delve into a thought-provoking discussion about communication and emotional challenges. Michael recounts a transformative family trip to the woods, where he faced miscommunication, lack of empathy, and emotional misalignment. He reflects on how his past frustrations surfaced during this experience. Lou shares insights from his own e…
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Lou recaps a compelling text from the podcast hotline, leading to a candid discussion about relationship expectations, accountability, and the hope for partner change. Lou shares his struggle with naming his feelings and reflects on a challenging situation that left his girlfriend heartbroken and its impact on him. Lou revisits childhood memories f…
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Lou dives into the unique challenges of being the sole member of your family pursuing self-improvement through therapy. He shares his personal journey and experiences in couples therapy, shedding light on the emotional and psychological impacts of seeking help. Michael opens up about his struggles with self-frustration, particularly around not lear…
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Warning: This episode contains a discussion about suicide, suicidal thoughts and suicidal ideation. Michael talks about finding a surprise at his friend's house in Texas and it sparks thoughts and behaviors in him that he hasn't felt in quite awhile. Lou talks about the benefits of evolving with the right partner but also how sometimes your old hab…
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Michael makes the mistake of mixing ADHD medication with coffee. Michael talks about the new feeling of being detached from your own reality before talking about his efforts of accepting positive feedback. Michael shares everything with everyone and Lou doesn’t. Lou is getting close to accessing shame in therapy. Lou gets into his childhood and how…
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We welcome comedian Gabby Lamb to the sleuth today! Michael explores therapist transitions and his new ADHD medication. Lou reflects on philanthropy in Los Angeles. Is starting your day with news or social media detrimental? They share personal stories about upbringing and parental dynamics. Gabby dives into managing comments and her unyielding res…
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Lou and Michael explore the impact of sharing beliefs on social media and the accessibility of voices online, amidst global issues. Lou reflects on his vision of an ideal life and its practicality, while Michael shares his heartfelt journey navigating Mother’s Day without his mom and grappling with time management and future planning. They also del…
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We welcome guest host Omono Okojie to the sleuth to talk all things existential dread! Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850…
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We welcome our good friend and comedian Jenny Zigrino to the sleuth to talk all things grief, coping and eating disorders Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: sec…
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Join Lou and Michael as they delve into the complexities of emotional support and personal growth in this enlightening conversation. Lou grapples with the possibility of entering his hippie phase, sparking a spirited debate with Michael. A profound revelation emerges as Lou confronts the stark reality of never having experienced physical affection,…
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We had a bit of an unforeseen and unprecedented recording this week... Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448…
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Join Michael and Lou in a transformative episode where they dive deep into personal growth journeys. Michael shares his breakthrough experience with ADHD medication, unveiling profound life changes. Delving further, they explore the struggle of finding intrinsic value in accomplishments. Lou sheds light on his quest to cherish the process rather th…
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Michael opens up about a recent emotional setback and his journey back to a place he's avoided for some time. Delve into Michael's struggles with self-forgiveness contrasted with his ease in forgiving others. Lou and Michael engage in a candid discussion on accountability and the importance of seeking and granting apologies. In a poignant moment, L…
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Join Lou and Michael for a deep dive into relationships, anxiety, and personal growth on this episode. From questioning the duration of people's roles in our lives to navigating anxiety and ADHD, they share their candid experiences. Tune in as they explore the challenges of therapy and the liberating journey of shedding self-identities. Support the…
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Lou is sick but still talks about his frustration doing parts work in therapy. Lou still struggles feeling silly, especially in therapy. Michael feels left out, even when he isn’t left out. Michael has started to lean into life more while he is also learning to dodge energy that isn’t for him. Michael hates kids, except one. Support the pod: http:/…
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Lou looks different in glasses. Lou had a nice day outside enjoying the trees. Michael likes posting about his daily activities online while Lou hates it. Michael talks about accepting himself and not liking kids before Lou reveals his RAADS-R results. The boys debate how the majority should affect your behaviors. Support the pod: http://patreon.co…
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Lou fills Michael in on some secrets he’s been keeping. Lou wants to start wearing glasses so he looks less scary. Michael reflects on seeing himself in others while he was on the road before unpacking how he has made grief his identity. Michael saw a psychic and learned some things. Michael is struggling with how he looks these days… or rather, wh…
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Michael thinks Lou is autistic. The boys unpack the surprisingly controversial Episode 030. Disclaimer: We do not mean any offense to anyone on the spectrum. This is a real conversation not intended to be insulting in any way. We have had this conversation in private and in therapy and thought it was important to share as adult diagnoses of autism …
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Lou had a really rough therapy session this week unpacking how his last relationship is affecting his current relationship. Lou talks about how his nervous system is taking over before diving in to his approach to being the best partner he can be. Michael talks about his growing loneliness before coming clean with the bear cubs about his recent bre…
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Guest host Madison Bellissimo sits in with Papa Bear as Michael is out of town to talk all things love and struggle. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondha…
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Lou talks about his first EMDR session before Michael voices his concern for not having a good memory. Lou challenges Michael on his approach and desire for healing. Michael and Lou debate what “normal” means. Michael quickly begins to feel his back against the wall and confronts Lou about it. Michael is trying to re-program himself. Support the po…
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Michael starts off dissecting his newfound daddy issues and how validation and disappointment plays into his life before getting into his younger self. Lou and Michael get into their individual desires to express more gratitude. Lou explores the dichotomy of having a great life but not feeling great all the time before discussing EMDR. Support the …
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Michael is still people pleasing and discusses getting “in trouble” as a grown man. Lou and Michael debate the difference between disrespect and not giving a fuck before getting into talking to their younger selves and comparing their different views on validation. Michael needs a Mom again… right? Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandther…
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Papa Bear has a life update that he has been hiding from the Bear Cubs for a few weeks; he comes clean before opening up about some new struggles. Michael discusses his fear of not being enough for potential partners before getting into his realization that he needs a hobby. Michael has an epiphany about his anxiety. Support the pod: http://patreon…
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We welcome comedian Lara Beitz to the sleuth to talk all things mental health. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: second…
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Lou still can’t cry and may be getting closer to knowing why before talking about getting closer with his therapist and how he feels defeated in therapy lately. Michael is still a people pleaser and talks about how outside opinions help him make progress. Michael and Lou discuss goal-setting in personal and professional aspects. Support the pod: ht…
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Lou is kinda grumpy; Michael has no interest in learning how to be alone. Michael talks about sacrificing all of his needs in order to please those around him before detailing how he gets into the hole of isolation. Lou talks about being in touch with his body and how that affects one’s nervous system. The boys discuss their different approaches to…
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Lou and Michael discuss their very different relationships with their fathers and their ideologies regarding families and forgiveness. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloub…
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Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions related to sexual assault. We welcome Hanorah to the sleuth to discuss all things anxiety, PTSD, self-love and more! Hanorah is multidisciplinary artist based out of a small studio filled with cats, canvases, and glittered tape recorders in Montreal’s west end. With years of touring under her belt …
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Lou and Michael discuss their different experiences from a recent party they attended before getting into their strong opinions regarding people asking you to remove your shoes at their house. Michael has a theory on Lou’s opposition to small talk. Michael reveals his surprise feelings of loneliness recently before getting into his struggle with co…
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Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions related to sexual assault, child abuse, pedophilia. suicide, suicide attempts. We welcome Siliva Saige to the sleuth to discuss her difficult journey from childhood to becoming a star in adult entertainment. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Fo…
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Lou is still talking about his newfound fear of relationships; his therapist gives him a crash course on attachment styles and boundaries before he explains how it can be all tied to a discomfort about identity. Lou and Michael talk about how misery can be comforting before Michael talks about his melancholy Thanksgiving where he fell into a dark h…
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Lou reveals his strategy for dealing with breakups before Michael gives his thoughts on anger and retaliation that follows cheating. Lou talks about dealing with feelings of rejection in the dating world. Michael talks about his recent business trip where he implemented some new self-love tactics before getting into his desire to unlock some childh…
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Michael talks about a dream he recently had that really messed with him before contemplating how he’s processed his grief. Lou and Michael debate what showing emotion actually looks like while sharing their difficulties crying in front of people. Lou talks about an exercise from his therapy session that sent him into a panic attack before he and Mi…
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Michael talks about his new confidence since getting his teeth fixed and how his therapist tied it back to his struggle with self-love. Lou and Michael discuss self-awareness when it comes to showing up in relationships. Lou figures out why he can’t be late before his therapist gets into the weeds regarding his lifelong use of humor as a shield. Su…
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We welcome Behavioral Specialist Laurie Singer to the sleuth today to talk all things grief, anxiety, self-worth, ADHD and more. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear ht…
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Lou starts off discussing having prepared answers ready for vulnerable conversations before talking about calling his therapist out for using “therapy talk.” Lou and Michael discuss empathy; Lou finally figured out why he struggles with it. Michael and Lou discuss social media and how their opinions on it differ. Michael talks about a big takeaway …
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Michael ponders his struggle with anxiety and control before unpacking how he protects his partners from his flaws in relationships. Lou and Michael discuss monogamy and the idea of legacies. Lou talks about his recent thoughts regarding having kids before taking you through an anxiety-filled exercise from his recent therapy session. Support the po…
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Lou recaps the final session with his current therapist before he moves on with a new therapist. Michael and Lou ponder what “normal” life looks like before contemplating the differences between men and women. Michael opens up about his experience with losing interest in past relationships. Lou and Michael debate what the majority or romantic relat…
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