Belonging is a deep instinctual need we have as a societal based species, so it shouldn’t come as a surprise that many of us as children (and adults) choose approval of other humans over authenticity and self trust inside of ourselves. Once we are aware of this instinct, analysis of our behavior choices become incredible interesting. We have now br…

Have you ever had the experience of when your toddler begins to say “no” to your request? It can be a puzzling experience, if not downright annoying. In this episode we share tips and tools for how to handle these situations in an unruffled way. Related Episodes EP 45 WHEN KIDS ARE SICK AND TODDLERS FEEL UNBEARABLE EP 53 TOP 10 PARENTING TIPS OF TH…

This episode Felica unpacks the tale of the too sweet mother and how we can learn to avoid extremes in our parenting from apathy to over parenting. We hope you enjoy! Remember to sign up ⁠here⁠ for our weekly newsletter where we send our favorite books, resources & parenting tips each week! To leave a review ⁠⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast a…

Self-care seems to be a buzzword that gets swept up in consumerism and consequently the real meaning and purpose of self-care gets blurry. In today’s episode, we talk about what self-care really is and how intentionality, mindfulness, and boundaries can help us connect better to ourselves and others. Related episodes 257 // How to Handle Parent Gui…

We all have times in our lives when we are apprehensive for what will come or even what's happening here and now, maybe we even dread it. In this episode, Katelin talks about the lessons she learned from a meaningful experience she had that can help us all as we encounter welcome and not-so-welcome events in our lives. Related episodes 223 // The P…

It seems there is an epidemic of disrespect, whining, tantrums, talking back and in general, less respect than we saw in previous generations of kids. We are burned out as parents and we don't see a way out. This ends in being ultra strict or ultra passive because we just feel burnt out. In this episode Felica talks with Joe Newman about mutual rec…

273 // When Things Don’t Go as Planned We all like to plan for life and set expectations for how things should go, but what happens when life doesn’t go as planned? Or people or circumstances don’t meet expectations? We try to have a baby and are unable, we lose jobs, marriages end, we lose faith. In this episode we talk about the disappointment, r…

272 // Magic Moment: When Life’s Waves Tumble you Does it ever feel like you are just being thrashed by the waves of life? Most of us have felt that way. In this episode, Taralyn describes some things she learned about facing waves in the ocean in Costa Rica. Sometimes it is helpful to face them with peaceful warrior strength; sometimes, its easier…

One of our most frequently asked questions we receive from listeners is "How can I implement quiet time with my kid?" Transitioning from nap time to quiet time can seem like a daunting change in your daily rhythm as a caregiver. We all need a little recharging time to refill our own cup and that can be difficult without any breaks. In this episode,…

We all agree that we want to keep our kids safe from sexual abuse but we oftentimes don’t know where to start and how to go about doing this. In this episode Katelin interviews Feather Berkower, Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Educator & Author, to understand what we can do to protect our kids and therefore create safer communities for all children. …

All of us experience metaphorical winters throughout our lives—times of emotional upheaval, physical taxation, or perhaps just times when we need more rest. Many of us also live in places where the outward cycles of our environment shift from warm and sunny to cold and darker. In this episode, Taralyn explores the concept of wintering as a philosop…

It is a New Year! How can we renew our habits with a recommitment to ourselves? We talk through a listener question about just this! Let's find motivation together. Related Episodes Discovering YOUR Life Essentials EP 111 POWER TO MOTIVATE YOURSELF USING GRETCHIN RUBIN'S FOUR TENDENCIES Habits Deep Dive / Why Simple Changes Compound into Big Result…

Before we can add in NEW yummy desires and goals for 2024 we have to clear out the old. Our psyche can be full of unwanted triggers and patterns and this can be the very thing blocking us from becoming who we would like to be. Feel bogged down? Tune in for a quick retune before you embark on your 2024 goal setting. --- Support this podcast: https:/…

Connection may just be the cure all to childhood misbehavior and troubles but it is harder to foster than any of us would want! In this episode we dive into one of our favorite books "Hold Onto Your Kids" by ⁠Gordon Neufeld⁠ and ⁠Gabor Maté MD⁠ and pull our favorite tips for maintaining a strong relationship with our children as well as signs and s…

Reiki is known as the divine movement of life force energy and is used as a healing technique to guide stuck energy from our chakras into alignment with our true purpose and intention. This week Felica interview Reiki Master Kristen Morris of MotherTree Reiki about her journey guiding people to know themselves better and she shares her experience h…

In this episode we answer a question about how to respond when other adults in our lives want to parent our kids in a way that differs from our desires. Listen in for ideas on how to navigate these situations in a way that honors ourselves, our kids, and the other loving (and often well-meaning) adults in our lives. Related Episodes When We Find Ou…

Stress is a fact of life, getting stuck in it isn't! When we are stuck in chronic stress or our stressors push us past our ability to cope we find ourselves in overwhelm. This episode we unpack Atlas of The Heart, the work of Brene Brown, as a guide to moving through stress and out of overwhelm. We touch on ways that we can identify the feeling in …

It sometimes feels like we are being pulled in many directions, and it is hard to feel settled and aligned when that is happening. In this episode, Taralyn describes a few things she has learned lately in her wrestle for alignment. The steps she has used to help her are: 1-Identify what parts of you are misaligned and intentionally give them all a …

"No one listens to me!" "I feel like the train engine running our whole home." "I am exhausted, will it always be this hard?" Finding the right parenting style for your family is hard. Information flies at us from all direction challenging us to "listen more", "be more strict." etc ... ultimately what we want is a dynamic, respectful and loving rel…

Do you ever feel parent guilt? We get so many questions from listeners about the torn feeling that comes while trying to balance being a whole person ourselves while still serving our families with love. In this episode, we answer this question as we discuss how we can set boundaries for ourselves, protect our own personal time (shower time, bathro…

​​This episode is a balm to stress and overwhelm. If you are feeling trapped in the storm of life this episode is for you. Felica shares her favorite quick tips for regulating her nervous system when things are just too much! If you liked this episode don't forget to share it and leave a review! We appreciate you so much. Review of the week *nicole…

Our favorite sex therapist is back and this time we are challenging the assumption that sexual desire dies with long term relationships. Felica interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife and they dive into the challenges we face to "keep the fire alive".Esther Perel said " Eroticism is the antithesis to everything a healthy family life needs, ritual, routine an…

In this mini episode Felica helps us think about how we take on our role as mother. It is a blessing for all the women we have been and a challenge to shed our over identification with our labels. ENJOY! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

So often in parenting, we find ourselves...losing our cool, to put it nicely. We respond with anger; we use bribing or coercion to make our kids behave, and we hurt our relationship with our kids and ourselves in the process. In this episode, we take a deep dive into individual steps we can take anytime we find ourselves triggered by our kids’ beha…

Original Post date 10/25/22 Fear is a powerful emotion. All of us face it at some point of another, and often, it really puts a damper on the way we live our lives. It can interfere with us loving wholeheartedly and doing things that inspire (and scare) us. In this episode, Taralyn dives deep into the concept of facing and processing our fears so t…

The holiday season can feel overwhelming because we feel the need to do everything to make them exciting and special. However, the beauty of having our own families is that we can intentionally choose the holiday activities that serve us and let go of the ones that don’t. The magic of family traditions is that they help our children feel a sense of…

There is nothing quite like parenting--it’s something we want to desperately do well at, and it is simultaneously one of the most difficult things that many of us will ever do. We face fears, failure, triggers of our own emotions, often while experiencing physical and emotional fatigue. However, because of this, children have the capacity to be our…

It can appear like people who are successful at achieving their goals simply possess an incredible amount of self control. That kind of belief lets us off the hook from creating the life we really want--we simply lack the self discipline, right? Well, it turns out that as we create habits that add value to our lives, we actually require LESS self c…

We often receive the message that we can have it all; we can do it all. Social media messages, societal expectations, and our own self talk often feeds the lie that we can do EVERYTHING. When we don’t live up to the unrealistic expectation that we can do everything and succeed at everything, there is a cost to our mental health. In this episode, we…

Research indicates that preschoolers, on average, make three demands/requests per minute! Wow. It’s no wonder we feel overwhelmed. “Watch me!” “Get that!” “Where’s my dinosaur?!” In this episode we talk about practical ideas and tools that have helped us navigate the barrage of daily requests, questions, and demands in a way that allows you to main…

Having a secure relationship with our partner is the foundation for a long, happy life. Building on this relationship we create meaningful and lasting lives that support our psychological development as well as provide a strong foundation for our children, careers and physical health. We loved reading Relationship RX by Stan Tatkin and we had to di…

There are lots of decisions that we make as parents that are made out of guilt or a sense of obligation. In this episode we talk about how to navigate parenting questions from a place of wholeness in order to figure out what will be best for parent AND child. We talk about whether or not to do preschool and *spoiler alert* there is no one perfect d…

Healing your body and spirit postpartum is a topic that is both under talked about and misunderstood. In this episode Katelin interviews Arielle Martone, doctor of physical therapy, yoga teacher and postnatal coach turned postpartum wellness coach after having 2 kids and overcoming postpartum depression and pelvic pain herself. She has 12+ years of…

The beginning of the school year is filled with many conflicting emotions for both our kids and us as parents. In this episode we share favorite tips, ideas and traditions that will help you start the year off right and from a place of wholeness. Related Episodes 207 // We Are All Good Inside: Parenting Without Using Shame and Repairing When We Do,…

Fall is the perfect time to reset our rituals, intentions and systems. In this magic moment Felica shares 2 rituals that are resetting her emotional wellness. The first centers on grieving our losses; the small day to day things we try to push past. The second is a ritual for visualizing our intentions and future goals around parenting and reframin…

Centering our minds and finding a place of peace in our days is crucial in modern parenting. Our phones are filled with demands that pull us away from ourselves, our desires and our families. On top of that the demands of our lives from appointments to chores call us away from creating connection and relationships. In this episode we refresh our de…

Have you ever tried to teach your kid a value? Or help them stop taking toys? Or handle a conflict within a friendship or with a sibling? As parents we have a (sometimes) underutilized tool that can help us in these situations: play. In this episode Katelin walks through how to use role playing specifically to help work through these situations wit…

Summer is half over and with all the fun comes exhaustion and overwhelm. In this episode, we address the concept of summer burnout, which can be applied to really any season of life. This episode was inspired by a voice message we received from one of our fabulous listeners. If you’d like to send us a question in the form of a voice message, just c…

Stuck in a rut? Are you feeling tired or disenchanted with your life or easily frustrated with your kids? Our days are made up of small moments, small seemingly insignificant moments that add up to our lives. Are we racing through or are we practicing presence and engaging with our day day? Inspired by Ross Gay on We can do hard things; this episod…

We all have negative experiences that impact our mental state day to day as we parent. It can be exhausting and disheartening to attempt to parent in this state of distress. Today we tackle a listener question on parenting while healing past trauma and parenting. We also hear from a listener seeking advice about her children's name calling, spittin…

Who doesn't want peace and homeostasis in the family environment? So often we can get to a place of chaos; where our homes and families feel out of sorts. In this episode Felica shares her experience of stripping away outside influence with their cross country move and how it affected her family environment. She shares tips on applying her learning…

The Enneagram is a system of personality typing that describes patterns in how people interpret the world and manage their emotions. It unpacks the intention by with we interact with others and make the choices we make. In this episode we unpack our Enneagram types and discuss how they helped us unearth shadow sides of our egos that were limiting u…

In our lives there are things that we control, things we influence, and things we have no control over. In today's episode, Katelin explores one thing that is entirely within our control: our thoughts. Our thoughts have power over the way we see and subsequently engage with our world. She discusses tips and tools, including the work by Byron Katie,…

Have you ever driven in a city that isn’t well planned? The roads are often too narrow for the amount of traffic, and the flow of streets seem to have no discernible pattern. Navigating in such a place can be tricky and chaotic. In contrast, a city that has planned ahead of time what they want long term often has wide, orderly streets, and the init…

In a few weeks our kids will be home for the summer, and our daily schedules will change drastically. A lot of jokes, angst and dread can surround this time of year. Let’s start as we mean to go on! In this episode, we are sharing some of our favorite tips for designing our summer. We touch on creating and setting boundaries from the start, letting…

We LOVE books. One of the casualties of our current age and our screen adapted/crippled attention spans is that we don’t read as much anymore. In this magic moment, Taralyn gives her best persuasion for reading and gives lots of easy tips to keep or acquire the habit of reading in your life. People ask us all the time how we read so many books, and…

We have all been here; there are times in life of discontent, resentment, perhaps even depression and often these coincide with a forgetting of ourselves. In this episode Felica interviews Tessa Brown, an artist and writer who focuses her work on womanhood and feminine energy and happens to be Felica's dear friend. They dive into reclaiming our you…

In today’s episode we talk about how to deal with your children squabbling repeatedly and what to do when you feel like you just can’t get it together. Time Stamps 13:42 - How to help our kids have a positive sibling relationship 19:17 - Sibling situation is working out a social dynamic for the real world 21:50 - We learn in families how to read pe…

Some parenting wisdom feels true to our core; that is how we felt when we read much of the wisdom from Hunter Gather Parent by Michaleen Doucleff. Today we are sharing our favorite nuggets from the book pertaining to disciplining our kids. The advice is less prescriptive and more in line with what we know to be true as parents and humans. Our child…

"My kids never help", "It's like pulling teeth", "Our family life feels disconnected", "They don't care about me or what I do for them"; frustration over the lack of help in our homes from our children can send us into a spiral of hard days. The sentiment that "kids will be kids" and we need to cater to their whims can topple the structure of our f…