최고 Alcoholism 팟캐스트 (2025)

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Ep 45 Gaslighting Is the Fuel That Keeps You Stuck in an Endless Cycle of Addiction: The Secret to Breaking Free! 17:38

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If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “How did I get back to this again?” — this episode is for you. That question means you’ve just gone through the cycle of gaslighting — and you may not even realize it. In this episode, we break down what gaslighting in an alcoholic marriage really looks like, why it’s so powerful, and how it keeps you trapped i…

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EP 44 Why Addiction Is Always Dysfunctional: 5 Ways to See It Clearly (Even in High-Functioning Times) 29:25

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When your husband is struggling with alcohol use, but life still looks mostly normal… it can be incredibly confusing. He may be: Holding down a good job Active in church or community Present with the kids at times Charming and “fine” around family and friends And when you express concern? He says you’re overreacting. Or that things aren’t that bad.…

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EP 43 Detox & Rehab: How Long Should My Alcoholic Husband Stay? 27:18

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If your husband is finally getting help for his addiction, you may be wondering: How long should he stay in treatment? 30 days? 60 days? 90 days? Longer? And what does detox have to do with rehab? Today, we’re breaking down the difference between detox and rehab in a simple, helpful way — and we’ll talk about why staying longer can make a big diffe…

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Ep 42 Why Won't He STOP Drinking Alcohol? Doesn't He Love Us? The Truth About The Addicted Brain 30:03

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Have you ever asked yourself, “If he really loved us, why won’t he stop drinking?” You’re not alone. So many Christian wives live in this painful confusion—trying to love, pray, and reason their way through addiction, only to feel rejected, unloved and unseen. In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we unpack the truth about the addicted brain and wh…

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Ep 41 Struggling To Communicate in an Alcoholic Marriage? ONE Boundary You Can Set Today 37:15

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Have you ever found yourself drawn into a heated or emotional conversation with your husband after he’s been drinking—only to regret it the next day when he doesn’t remember, denies it happened, or twists your words? In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’ll talk about why refusing to engage in conversation when alcohol is involved is not cold or…

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Ep 40 Feel Crazy? Gaslighting: The Basics and How To Spot It Amidst Addiction 39:45

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Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your husband and thought, “Am I crazy?” You’re not. You may be experiencing gaslighting—one of the most confusing and painful behaviors that often shows up in alcoholic marriages. In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’re going back to the basics. You’ll learn what gaslighting really is, how it m…

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Ep 39 Quitting Alcohol But NOTHING Has Changed: Is My Alcoholic Husband Really Sober? 29:48

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Has your husband quit drinking, but the chaos, anger, or dysfunction in your home hasn’t gone away? Many Christian wives find themselves asking: “If he’s not drinking, why doesn’t life feel better?” Sobriety and recovery are not the same thing, and understanding the difference can bring clarity, peace, and direction. In this episode of Wife on the …

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Ep 38 My Alcoholic Husband Doesn't Want Me To Go To Alanon! What Are My Options? 29:55

2M ago29:55

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Does your husband push back when you mention Al-Anon—or accuse it of being “husband bashing”? You’re not alone. Many Christian wives long for support but feel trapped when their spouse doesn’t approve. In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’ll talk honestly about the struggle of wanting help with addiction and alcoholism while facing resistance a…

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Ep 37 Codependency and Alcoholism: How To Spot Enabling Patterns That May Be Robbing You Of Peace 29:08

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Are you ever unsure if your actions are helping your alcoholic husband—or actually enabling him? Many Christian wives fall into codependent patterns without realizing it, believing they are loving, protecting, or supporting their spouse. But what feels like care can quietly fuel addiction and rob you of peace. In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, …

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EP 36 Monitoring Alcohol Intake? Codependent Behavior 101 And What To Do Instead 27:48

2M ago27:48

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When you’re married to an alcoholic, it feels almost impossible not to keep watch over his drinking. Maybe you’ve counted bottles, checked the liquor cabinet, or tracked every sip at dinner—hoping that if you could just measure the problem, you could somehow control it. In this episode, we’ll talk about why monitoring an alcoholic’s drinking doesn’…

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Ep 35 Regulating Emotion In The Face Of Gaslighting: Wives Of Alcoholics Guide 20:38

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When gaslighting leaves you questioning your reality and your worth, it’s easy to spiral into anger, defensiveness, or despair. As wives, we long for our husbands to meet our emotional needs, but the truth is—no spouse can carry that weight fully. And when addiction and gaslighting are present, the gap feels even bigger than we ever imagined. In th…

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EP 34 Waiting For Things To Get Better? 3 Tips To Regulate Your Nervous System When Addiction Impacts Your Home 30:29

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Living with alcoholism in your marriage can leave you feeling like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. The lies, broken promises, and constant chaos can make you wonder if hope is even possible. If you’ve ever whispered, “I can’t keep doing this,” this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, I share 3 Christ-centered, practical tips …

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Ep 33 Tired of Boundary Battles? Effectively Communicate Boundaries To Your Alcoholic Husband 25:39

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Sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between a healthy boundary and one that only sounds right on the surface. Boundaries are like real vs. counterfeit money—you need to know what the genuine thing “sounds” like in order to recognize when something is off. In this episode, I’m sharing examples of both unhealthy and healthy boundaries side by …

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Ep 32 How Do I Set A Boundary That Actually Works In Active Addiction? 3 Traps To Avoid 31:53

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When you’re living in the chaos of an alcoholic marriage, boundaries aren’t just helpful—they’re essential. But here’s the thing: not all boundaries are created equal. Some can actually cause more damage, fuel defensiveness, or leave you carrying all the accountability. In this episode, I’m sharing three specific things I don’t do when I set bounda…

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EP 31 Why Aren't My Boundaries Working? 4 Boundary Mistakes In Active Addiction 37:09

3M ago37:09

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Setting boundaries in a marriage impacted by addiction is hard enough—but what happens when we set boundaries that backfire? In this episode, we’re walking through 4 common boundary mistakes Christian wives often make when navigating life with an alcoholic spouse: Boundaries made in anger – when emotions take over and clarity is lost Not following …

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Ep 30 How Did It Get This Bad? Setting Boundaries In An Alcoholic Marriage Broke My Heart! 23:36

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There’s a specific kind of heartbreak that comes when you realize the life you dreamed of isn’t the life you’re living—and that setting a boundary might be the only way to protect your peace, your children, or your sanity. In this deeply personal episode, I share my own experience of grieving what I thought family life would look like—and the painf…

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Ep 29 Do I Keep Bringing Sobriety Up? How Can I Encourage AA? Insights From Our Story: A Husband In Recovery Answers These Questions ♥ //Interview Part 2// 22:57

4M ago22:57

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Welcome back to Part 2 of my honest conversation with my husband, who is now in long-term recovery from alcohol. This episode dives into some of the most painful questions Christian wives face when living with an alcoholic spouse: 💔 Should I keep bringing up the drinking? 🙏 Can I encourage AA or other recovery programs without nagging? 🔁 Why does i…

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Ep 28 Want A Peek Inside HIS Alcoholic Brain? A Husband In RECOVERY Shares Why Conversations With Wifey Did Not Lead To Quick Change And What You Can Do Instead //Interview- Part 1// 22:50

4M ago22:50

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In this special two-part episode, I sit down with my husband—who is in long-term recovery from alcoholism—to answer a heartfelt and all-too-relatable question from a listener: "My husband admits his drinking is a problem, but he's not doing anything about it. If I ask him if he’s looked into AA, Celebrate Recovery, or Regeneration, he says he hasn’…

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Ep 27 Summer & Self-Sabotage: Does Your Husband Start Meaningless Fights For An Excuse To Drink? 17:51

5M ago17:51

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Summer is supposed to be a time of fun, family, and freedom — but for Christian wives of alcoholics, events like the 4th of July, barbecues, and neighborhood gatherings can catch you off guard with behavior not anticipated. Expecting Family Time but your husband self sabotages in order to drink and you end up alone or with all the kids without him?…

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Ep 26 Conflict in the World, Chaos at Home: How To Find Peace Amid Addiction, Alcoholism, and Anxiety 29:35

5M ago29:35

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In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’re talking about what it feels like to live in a world full of uncertainty—when bombs are being dropped overseas and emotional bombs are going off in your own home. With growing tensions between Israel and Iran and news of U.S. involvement, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the global instability. But for Chr…

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Ep 25 Discerning Who Is Safe To Talk To About Your Alcoholic Husband And The Chaos Of Addiction In Your Home? 35:17

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How do you know if someone is safe to talk to about your marriage, your alcoholic husband, or the chaos addiction is causing in your home? In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we explore a powerful litmus test to help Christian wives of alcoholics discern who they can trust with their story—and who might cause more harm than help. If you’ve ever w…

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EP 24 Health: Alcohol, Liver Damage, and Loving a Husband Who Won’t Stop Drinking. 28:19

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Are you the only one paying attention to the warning signs? What even are the warning signs for Liver Disease and Liver Cirhossis and when to expect them. There may be NO symptoms or concerns at this time, but looking in the future has you concerned? Maybe you are seeing his yellowing eyes, his constant fatigue, his mood swings? Let's unpack this t…

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EP 23 Can You Be a Good Christian Wife and Still Be Angry At The Unfairness Of Addiction? 32:21

5M ago32:21

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As a Christian wife living with an alcoholic husband, you’ve probably wrestled with a deep emotional conflict: “I know I’m supposed to forgive, but I’m furious.” In this episode, we’re opening up the conversation about anger—what Scripture really says, why it’s not a sin to feel it, and how to move through it without shame. We’ll unpack the emotion…

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Ep 22 Part 2 Heavy Drinking or Alcoholism? Not Sure If Hubby Can Stop Drinking Or Not? 26:37

6M ago26:37

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Still unsure if your husband is “just” a heavy drinker or a true alcoholic? The truth is: chasing a diagnosis often becomes a distraction that delays the healing process. In this episode, we talk about why trying to “figure him out” won’t fix anything—and what you can do instead. Whether your husband meets a textbook definition or not, the chaos st…

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EP 21 Part 1 Is It Alcoholism Or Just Heavy Drinking? Where Is The Line? 22:41

6M ago22:41

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Are you constantly wondering whether your husband is an alcoholic or “just” a heavy drinker? Maybe you've searched for clarity in books, blogs, or online quizzes—hoping that labeling his behavior will give you peace. In this episode, we break down what the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous says about the three types of drinkers, including what defin…

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Ep 20 Helping Your Husband Or Enabling Addiction? A Litmus Test For Wives 24:13

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If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re helping your husband or enabling his addiction, this episode is for you. As Christian wives, we’re called to love and support—but when codependency creeps in, it can be hard to tell if our actions are helping or hurting. In today’s episode, I share two simple but powerful questions—your litmus test—to help you…

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Ep 19 Peace in the Chaos Starts Here: A Mindset for Boundaries as the Wife of an Alcoholic 19:05

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In this episode on boundaries, we return to the basics—what they are, why they matter, and how they serve as a powerful shield for your peace. Think of boundaries not as walls to keep your husband out, but as a protective dome that creates space between you and the chaos of addiction. This distance isn’t about punishment—it’s about preserving your …

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Ep 18 "I Can Quit Drinking Alcohol Anytime I Want!" An Honest Look At Denial From an Alcoholic Husband Pursuing Recovery //Interview// 16:10

7M ago16:10

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Have you ever wondered what your husband is thinking!? Active Addiction comes with all kinds of twisted thinking in the mind to justify otherwise unhealthy behavior. In this powerful episode, we delve into the intricate journey from a husband's perspective as alcohol steadily takes command over life. I'm joined by my husband, who courageously opens…

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Ep 17 Recovery of Your Family Begins With YOU! Combatting Childhood Trauma From The Trenches. ACA Al Ateen 20:42

7M ago20:42

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In this powerful episode, Recovery of Your Family Begins With YOU!, I share a story I heard in Al-Anon that stopped me in my tracks—a story that helped me see how my efforts to “smooth things over” in a home affected by alcoholism were actually hurting more than helping. Children don’t need everything to look okay. They need someone who is okay—som…

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Ep 16 Parenting Through The Dysfunction Of Alcoholism: How Do I Lead My Kiddos? ACOA Al Ateen Al Anon 21:03

7M ago21:03

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Send your questions to the show! [email protected] Our kids are looking to us for guidance on how to navigate all of this. They can get caught up in the confusion and the family disease of alcoholism. As the wife of an alcoholic and the momma to these souls, and future ACOA members what can you be doing to help them to get through this too!?…

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EP 15 Childhood Trauma and The Impact of Alchoholism on Our Kids! ACOA CPTSD 21:54

7M ago21:54

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The impact of alcoholism on me was IMMENSE! However, my kids were experiencing all of this too through the littlest eyes and innoent hearts! I did not used to know how to lead them through all of this! Addiction really impacted our family! I have learned SO many tools and nuggets of wisdom over the years that helped me to navigate what our family w…

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Ep 14 Being Married To An Alcoholic is SO Lonely! Who Can You Talk To As The Trauma Piles Up? 16:48

8M ago16:48

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Tune in to hear ONE thing that God taught me during this painful lonely season. Being married to an alcoholic who thinks that everything is FINE is SO frustrating! Active addiction is exhausting. AA says that Alcohol is "Cunning, Baffling and Powerful" and it is SO True. The one person that I wanted to talk to was the one person who was also hurtin…

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Ep 13 The Sobriety, Recovery, Relapse Cycle of Addiction is EXHAUSTING! One Practical Thing You Can Do Now! 15:03

8M ago15:03

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Today hear the ONE thing I did that helped me to start leaning on those that God had placed in my life. To bear someone else’s burden is a powerful expression of love and compassion, reminding us that we are not meant to walk through life alone. I needed friends and family to support myself and my children and ultimately my husband through this mes…

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Ep 12 Boundaries 101: Married To An Alcoholic? 2 Foundational Boundaries To Set First! 18:56

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Connect with me at [email protected] When the confusion and gaslighting are a normal way of life in your alchoholic marriage, and life is flying at you so fast, it is so hard to even recognize where to begin setting BOUNDARIES. Today I share my top foundational boundaries to begin with. Setting boundaries is never an easy task when addiction…

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Ep 11 Identify Gaslighting Cycles: Is Your Husband Lying About His Drinking? 17:58

8M ago17:58

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Connect with me at [email protected] Lying about drinking is SO COMMON in alcoholic marriages! Christians are not immune to the lying and gaslighting! Have you experienced this? I never want to accuse someone of doing something, but if the proof is there it is SO CONFUSING for us as wives! Send me your QUESTIONS! [email protected] Wan…

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Ep 10 Should I Stay in My Alcoholic Marriage? Should I Leave My Alcoholic Marriage? I Thought About This ALL The Time! 23:00

9M ago23:00

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Connect with me at [email protected] It is the ultimate question! Join me as I pour out my heart on this topic that often took me captive and ran through my head on repeat! I didn't want to have to make an impossible choice! Do you find yourself thinking about these two options and trying to decide what to do? This is VERY common!! If I stay…

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Ep 09 Do You Feel Like His Mother? Alcoholism in Marriage Creates Unhealthy Dynamics 19:05

9M ago19:05

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“ I feel like his mother!” Did you get married expecting a spouse and a life partner? Do you need someone to lean on and instead end up picking up all of the slack PLUS handling his stuff too? Are you struggling with conflicting thoughts on how to navigate these feelings? We will dive into the reasons that I believe contribute to this dynamic espec…

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Ep 8 Needing Consistent Support? Feeling Defeated? 3 Supportive Resources NEAR YOU for Wives of Alcoholics! 17:18

10M ago17:18

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Connect with me at [email protected] QUESTIONS? Submit your question to the email above and listen for a response on the show. Do you attend meetings already? If not, why? What options are even out there? What are the barriers you face? There are so many resources for us wives and I want to share a few with you today! Do not walk this journe…

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Ep 07 Praying Your Husband Will Choose Recovery This Year? Tips To Support the Pre-Recovery Stage! 17:08

10M ago17:08

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How to support ideas of Recovery in the New Year! Did your husband mention a New Years Resolution to cut back drinking? Are you praying he will walk into REVOVERY this Year? Do you wish he would make some kind of a commitment for change? Anything would give you hope at this point!! Tune in to hear how you can support recovery and future conversatio…

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Ep 06 Are You Exhausted in the Chaos of Addiction? 3 Tips for Biblical Rest and Renewal God’s Way. 20:44

11M ago20:44

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Are you exhausted? The fallout can be immense after holidays or special occasions. I believe we experience this at a higher and deeper level in marriages struggling with addiction and its impact on our families! Join me for some tips to get the rest and renewal you need in impossible situations. What can Biblical rest and renewal look like in a fam…

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Ep 05 Lonely? Hopeless? Stressed? Encouragement For Christian Wives of Alcoholics Hoping for Recovery 11:32

11M ago11:32

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What do we do with all of these emotions that hit us and create a storm of heaviness? The Bible gives us some direction on this topic and as a gift from me to you, tune in to hear my heart for you my sweet friend. The creator of the universe LOVES you! Connect with me at [email protected] Send your questions to the show! Holiday Survival Gui…

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Octavio Cifuentes of FTX Wellness 36:52

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Summary of Sober Ventures Podcast Episode with Octavio CifuentesQuick Overview:This podcast episode features Octavio Cifuentes, founder of FTX Wellbeing and Performance in Boca Raton, who shares his journey from addiction to creating a wellness-focused business that specifically serves the recovery community. His story demonstrates how fitness and …

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Ep 04 Do You LOVE an Alcoholic? Safety Steps to Guard Your Heart, Home and Children. 25:25

11M ago25:25

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What will you do if your husband drives intoxicated? How can you protect your kids from the impacts of alcoholism if things get out of hand? Do you have a plan of how to walk through this valley and make it through these next few weeks? Connect with me at [email protected] I would LOVE to hear from you. Send a question to the show and you ma…

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Ep 03 Navigating Drinking Culture? Hint- Alcohol is Normalized EVERYWHERE!! Are Your BOUNDARIES Ready? 38:37

12M ago38:37

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Holidays and alcohol tend to go hand in hand in our culture. How can we regain some control of this painful reality to manage alcohol's presence at our family gatherings this year? -Attend events as normal or decline invitations?? How to make a plan! -Boundary setting Reclaim this season for you and your children. <3 Connect with me hello@wifeonthe…

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Ep 02 Parenting With an Alcoholic Husband? Tips for Peace & Joy with Kids. 39:18

12M ago39:18

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Trying to parent with someone in Active Alcoholism is nearly impossible! Ask me! I did it for years and even the best mama can get so overwhelmed by….. Gaslighting. Minimization. Confusion. Frustration. Anger. In the depths of your husband’s addiction have you ever felt paralyzed trying to plan and schedule life with kids because your husband refus…

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Ep 01 You’re Not Crazy: Gaslighting in Your Alcoholic Marriage? You are NOT Alone! 15:35

12M ago15:35

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Welcome to Wife on the Rocks! Have you ever felt crazy in your alcoholic marriage? Does it feel like you are the keeper of secrets and no one else knows what is happening behind closed doors? You are not alone. God sees everything. Connect with me at [email protected] Send your questions to the show! Curious about working with me? I offer 1 …

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Wife on the Rocks Trailer 3:24

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Are you a Christian wife in an Alcoholic Marriage? Do things seem really complicated in your relationship? Do you struggle to put words to how you are feeling and what is happening in your home? You are NOT alone <3 Welcome to Wife on the Rocks Podcast.저자 Bethany Dettmer - Relationship Coach for Christian Women, Alcoholism Impact Coach for Christian Wives

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2023 Update and Invite 8:50

2+ y ago8:50

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Still here, still sober, still venturing! Today's show from the road is an update on what's new in life over the past 6 years since the last episode released!As I'm checking back in on the show, I'd love to have some more conversations with sober entrepreneurs and continue to give back to this great community that was there for me in my early sobri…