Tim & Whitney Scarborough: reflecting on 15 years of marriage

Whit's End: Real People, Hard Questions

Today, my husband Tim and I take on some of your hard questions. We reflect on 15 years of marriages, highs and lows, massive ridiculous fights, and bringing people in through confession and counseling. We talk about our tension over finances, my OCD tendencies, and how to keep pursuing each other physically and emotionally. Let's dive in!

Quotes:

"We realized that we did know the heart of each other, and we did know the character of each other, but the mannerisms, the idiosyncrasies, and the responses in the moment took time to adjust to."

"Here we were in this place in our marriage that we never thought we'd get to. What are we doing? How did we get here?"

"Life got different with a kid. We weren't connecting with each other and started to fill that void in other places."

"We learned the art of intentional confession, and the importance of it."

"Nobody can know, but someone has to know, or we won't make it out of this."

"You need the accountability, but you're terrified of the shame that comes from someone knowing."

"The truth is that counseling is always inconvenient."

"It sounds very unromantic and un-sexy to plan sex!"

"At the base of my defensiveness is pride."

"Apologies in our household have come to have a two-fold piece of fully owning and fully asking."

"The faithfulness of choosing one another day in and day out has tremendous fruit, but we don't always feel it, we don't always see it."

"Marriage is really about God refining each other through the other person and becoming more like him, and getting to experience the love of Christ and show his love to each other."

"The act of loving your spouse even when they suck is reflective of the God we say we serve."