011 I've Been High Achieving, and I've Been Reinforced for That; to Be Moderately Achieving Felt Like I'd Lost a Piece of My Identity, with Allison Puryear, LCSW

Unapologetically Sensitive

EPISODE

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TITLE

I've been high achieving, and I've been reinforced for that;

to be moderately achieving felt like I'd lost a piece of my identity

GUEST

Allison Puryear,

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Allison talks about having to slow down for health reasons and how this impacted her sense of worth and value. What do you do when you're a striver and you're used to pushing through? How to set up structure to support having more balance. We talk about being in the sandwich (or panini) generation, where you're getting "pressed" from both generations. How to manage caring for, and attending to parents and children and managing medical appointments, disappointing news, and taking care of yourself. Allison utilizes her DBT, ACT, CBT skills to manage high stress levels. We talk about how to see if you're a Highly Sensitive Person, and we talk about that 30% of HSPs are extroverts and 70% are introverts. Jaquelyn Strickland has written an article on being an HS Extrovert. We review the 4 traits of Highly Sensitive People (DOES)—Depth of Processing, Overarousal/overstimulation, Emotional responsiveness/empathy and Sensory Sensitivity. WE talk about courage and vulnerability and Brene Brown's work. We also talk about Allison's guest appearance on Lauren Selfridge's podcast This Is Not What I Ordered.

BIO

Allison Puryear is an LCSW with a nearly diagnosable obsession with business development. She has started practices in three different states and wants you to know that building a private practice is shockingly doable when you have a plan and support. She teaches everything you need to know about building a private practice in the Abundance Party, where you can get practice-building help for the cost of a copay. You can download a free private practice checklist to make sure you have your ducks in a row, listen in on consultations and interviews on the Abundant Practice Podcast, and hop into the free Facebook Group full of over 13,000 other clinicians in private practice. Allison is all about helping you gain the confidence and tools you need to succeed.

HIGHLIGHTS

• 4 Characteristics of Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) D-O-E-S
  • Depth of processing
  • Overarousability /Overstimulation
  • Emotional Responsiveness/Empathy
  • Sensory Sensitivity
• Monthly check-in asking What is important to me?
  • My health
  • Managing stress levels (which is a trigger for poor health)
  • Making sleep a priority
  • Family
  • Business
• It's easy to use scheduling as a way to avoid feelings
  • Feel the feeling, AND look at the schedule
  • What are the things that are important (paper and action)
  • Does your schedule reflect your values?
  • Leave computer at home
  • No work apps on phone

QUOTES

• My worth doesn't lie in what I create
• I had to sit with the feeling that people are disappointed that I'm only putting out one piece of content now instead of four. What if people are let down by the shift? What does that mean about me?
• It doesn't mean anything, what somebody else thinks about me.
• For my whole life I've been high achieving and I've been reinforced for that
• To be moderately achieving felt like I'd lost a piece of my identity
• I was driving myself too hard for something people weren't even asking for
• I would love to be one of those people who learns from others' mistakes, but most of the time I have to fail on my own
• I have this rule—If it's not a hell yes, then it's a no
• You can have frustration tolerance and be tough and handle what's thrown at you, AND be highly sensitive

LINKS

https://abundancepracticebuilding.com/

https://abundanceparty.com/join-now

Allison's guest appearance on the podcast This Is Not What I Ordered with Lauren Selfridge-- http://thisisnotwhatiordered.libsyn.com/27-entrepreneurship-chronic-illness-with-allison-puryear

Dr. Elaine Aron's website—https://hsperson.com

HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/

HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/

Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/

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