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Noa Ronen is your out of the box coach. She is also an author, vlogger, disruptor, and coffee lover.
She brings more than 20 years of experience in Change Management, Human Resources, Project Management, and coaching.
She encourages progressive and social business leaders and their teams to challenge the norms so they can create the change they desire.
Noa’s personal relocation experience resulted in a refreshing view of the world that invites you rather than looking for others' differences to open your mind and heart to see people and situations differently. This is what Noa calls BEyond Leadership where your new way of being inspires and influences others. If you would like to go to BEyond: Leadership check her book: BEyond: Leadership from AwareLess to AwareNess.
I moved to the US from Israel…and before the move, I worked in human resources, change management consulting and was in executive roles…I knew it would take some time but I thought things would be easy and I would find a job and everything will be fine.
A big chunk of it was that speaking was my forte. I knew at a very early age that when I open my mouth and I speak, I can influence people. And suddenly when I open my mouth, people see that I’m not from here. And they can see the gap in language skills and most important, in my head, I felt like my English was not good enough.
And that voice in my head….telling me I’m not good enough and I’ll never be able to close the gap? That was not helpful.
Most of us walk with that voice that we’re not good enough….or why bother? And when we are…aware less…we keep self sabotaging ourselves without even knowing.
The saboteur voice, the inner critic. The role of that voice is to tell you stay where you are…here you will not fail.
I went for a lot of little failures.
I failed trying to replicate the life I had in the US.
I was too much in my ‘doing’.
I started blogging. Blogging then was like podcasting today. It was for me playing and having fun.
I am going through grief. I had to let go of the Noa I had in Israel and find myself.
How come that woman that was always able to bring results cannot bring results?
That was the part that brought me to coaching. From reading my blog.
I still had that inner voice.
I went to Toastmasters
I started speaking and then people said ‘Where is the book?’ That was the first time I was able to conquer that voice and say I’m done with you. I wrote the book in English…so we are done!
Because of the way you speak…when we need to listen to you…we need to listen to you differently. And that’s what makes it so special about you.
I represent different. I speak different. I always had a different voice. I was raised to have a different voice.
I believe the pivot started was I was able to deal and people were able to connect with me.
Sharing my experience and perspective brought connection.
The connection reminds us that we are resourceful and that’s when things start to happen.
When we look at grief, we always look at it from the perspective of someone who passed away, but if we look at the emotional process…the main experience we are having is who am I going to be without that person? How am I going to redefine myself without that person?
If you look at any transition in your life…in all those situations, the questions are the same. How do I redefine myself in this new situation?
It’s that ability to trust.
We have two energies. The doing energy and the being energy. The doing is the focus on action. The being is the thoughts, emotions, fears and hopes..
When we focus on the action….we make the process longer. We stay longer in that tunnel…
When you learn to process, there is not a lot of action but you are doing that work…
There are some weaknesses that maybe we don’t need to pay attention to.
Those little holes don’t make the boat sink.
Part of the burden we walk with is that we need to fix everything. And sometimes giving ourselves that permission to say “no, this is okay”…I don’t want to…
Give ourselves the permission not to touch it at all or not to touch it now.
It can be ‘yes, but not now.’
There are some areas that we need to struggle with ourselves.
If I make other people miserable, I need to do that work.
Find the purpose behind.
When you own a value like authenticity…I was not able to say I’m going to show up as someone different just to make others feel that I need to look like them….it’s part of my uniqueness and who I am.
Find peace. Have those open conversations with that part in us….what’s the resistance about? What makes me not willing to have you as part of me?
Peace within comes from ‘I’m welcoming everything inside me.’
Always questions the professionals, the smart people. If they something, always go and check it out. Just because they have the title, doesn’t mean that they know everything.
We are not stuck with the problem. We are stuck with the solution. What if we can see a different solution? What would be possible?
Social media links @NoaRCoach
Buy Noa's Book on Amazon:
BEyond: Leadership from AwareLess to AwareNess
Dare to BE the Leader You Can Be.
Audio: Ariza Music Productions