Why Not To Believe The Promise Of Change From A Narcissist - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

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People with narcissistic tendencies and traits want to have their way, and want you to do their bidding.

If they really, really, really want something, or, if they are really, really, really afraid of losing something, they sometimes promise to change.


How many promises has a narcissist--a narcissistic #Hijackal--made to you about changing behaviors? How many of those promises were kept? Right! Not many.


Oh, yes, maybe for a hot minute things improved. That is usually to get you to believe that they sincerely mean what they say. The proof, though, is in the long-term, sustained changes. How many of those changes did you see?


Learning more about why change isn't sustained is important. BUT, it doesn't excuse it. Save yourself from further emotional abuse.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • Why admitting a mistake is so difficult for a #narcissist, a #Hijackal
  • 5 reasons #narcissists will give you the impression they are going to change
  • Why #narcissists seldom change and narcissistic abuse prevails
  • Why you get your hopes up when a #Hijackal changes even a little more to the positive
  • Why toxic relationships stay the same
  • How promising to change and not doing it contributes to emotional abuse

Narcissists are abusive. Their very real fear of closeness gives them little ability or willingness to move in your direction. Promising to change but never actually changing is one way this shows up. See it clearly, even when hope tries to get in your way. You and your children need to be in healthy environments where there is no verbal abuse, no emotional abuse, and no other kind of abuse, either.


Big hugs!

Rhoberta


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