52. Rekindle Emotional Intimacy Today

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |

Crack the code to emotionally intimacy where you consistently feel seen and special.

Last Friday, after 6 months of lockdown, patios reopened. Sitting on a picnic bench with a plastic divider next to me, my eyes landed on a couple whose gazes seemed to burn into each other, and it was as if they were oblivious to the 50 other people on the patio (6 ft apart).

➣As I watched, they sampled each others’ beer, tasted each other’s food, all while keeping their gazes firmly fixed on the other.

➣No phone, no silences, just palpable connection.

How long do you think this couple had been together?

My guess is it was a new relationship.

Why? Because new love lights up the pleasure center of our brain. In a flash, it becomes effortless to talk, gaze and caress each other.

Have you ever looked at a couple like this and had conflicting feelings?

→On the one hand, you feel irritated with their public display of affection and wish they would get a room.

→But, on the other hand, you feel a prick of envy and long for the good old days?

After spending nearly 6 months mostly talking to my husband, sometimes I feel like a dried-up well with nothing left to say…

…With my shoulders slumped and feeling reasonably jealous of this couple in love, I excused myself to the bathroom.

I decided I was over feeling sorry for myself and was going to set the stage to rekindle connection with my husband.

In the episode, we discuss what I did to reignite our spark.

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